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Clarify the outcome
What do you genuinely want to change, build, decide or move toward?
Coaching for people who know something needs to change, but keep running into the same problem and aren’t sure what is causing it.
You don’t need to have the problem perfectly figured out. Sometimes figuring out what you’re actually stuck on is part of the work.
Before putting another solution on top of the problem, we first slow the situation down. We look at what you want, what is actually happening, and where the current reality stops working for what you want. From there, we work out what is actually creating the situation and what makes sense to do next.
What do you genuinely want to change, build, decide or move toward?
What is happening now? We use a real, recent situation rather than staying abstract.
Where does the current situation stop matching or supporting what you actually want?
We look at whatever is actually relevant: thoughts, emotions, fears, assumptions, circumstances, practical constraints, resources, other people, values, or the way you currently understand the situation.
Once the situation is clearer, we turn that understanding into a concrete next step that fits what is actually going on.
We look at what happens in real life, learn from it, and adjust instead of treating a setback as failure.
Coaching is most useful when there is something you genuinely want to change, you keep running into the same problem, and you cannot fully explain why it keeps happening.
Real situations can make it easier to see what this kind of coaching actually looks like in practice.
What we worked on: We mapped out what she actually wanted, what she already had going for her, and what was making her current direction feel impossible.
What became clearer: The main bottleneck was not simply a lack of skill or needing another education. It was largely resources, financial runway and uncertainty about how to move forward.
Outcome: She left with a clearer picture of the real problem and a possible funding route she had not been considering before.
What we worked on: He felt like what he had been taught about success was wrong and that he did not really understand how the world worked. We clarified what he was actually looking for and what success meant to him.
What became clearer: He realized that he did not want to pursue success in a way that meant compromising his morals, and we found a practical direction he was interested in exploring.
Outcome: The conversation helped him feel unstuck and gave him a new direction he wanted to invest in.
What we worked on: He had taught himself programming and languages, freelanced and built things himself. But when it came to approaching the market with his own business, fear of rejection and ideas about what successful people “had to be like” kept getting in the way.
What became clearer: The standard he compared himself to required being more ruthless than he wanted to be. And part of what he called “laziness” was not wanting to risk his time or money on an idea that might fail.
Direction forward: Shrink the scope to something he could realistically build himself, at a level of risk he was actually willing to accept.
What we worked on: She wanted to grow as a coach, but kept holding back. We found that she was putting a lot of pressure on herself to succeed and do things correctly, and that this pressure was making it harder to take action. The same pattern showed up when she coached clients.
What became clearer: When she became unsure, she would rely heavily on the structure she had learned and search for the “right” thing to do. That pulled her away from herself and the client. She began to see that structure could support her without having to tell her whether she was doing it correctly.
Outcome: She became more relaxed and present while coaching, and said her sessions went much better. She also felt less dependent on structure, more grounded, and freer to be herself.
“Before putting another solution on top of the problem, let’s understand why the current situation isn’t working.”
When you are inside your own situation, it can be difficult to see what is actually happening. You can end up trying to fix the wrong problem — adding another system, strategy or piece of advice without understanding why the previous one was not working.
We organize the situation from the outside, identify where things actually break down, and make the problem specific enough that you can do something with it.
You say you want one thing, but you keep doing another. Let’s find out why.
I’m a coach with a background in holistic coaching and therapeutic training. I work best with people who are willing to look honestly at what is happening, including the parts that are uncomfortable, confusing or contradictory.
My role isn’t to hand you my answers and tell you how to live. We look at your situation together, figure out what is actually happening, what matters to you, and what is getting in the way — then work from there.
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